“Expectation is the root cause of all heartache.”
Very well written by William Shakespeare.
But as a human being, its natural and we can’t help it. It’s automatic to have expectations.. specially from someone we love from the depth of our hearts, and that’s what ruins all the good things. We expect so much from them that we forget they are humans too and can do whatever they wanna do or can behave or react the way they feel like. Who are we to control their every action. As the beautiful quote say:
If you love someone, set them free..if they come back they’re yours, if they don’t..they never were.
Then the question comes..should we let them go or let them behave the way they want to, i think yes.. because that what love is all about.. letting the other person be themselves..who they truly are..no pretending, but it’s easier said than done, and that too when they have changed, and aren’t the same way they used to be or in other words we can say not the way we expected them to be.. it actually hurts really bad but you can’t blame them for that. It becomes harder when you can’t even tell or explain them what you’re feeling because you know they aren’t feeling the same towards you, and things have started to change and you’re afraid to lose them.
“Who hurt you ?? “
“My own expectations…”
We have to understand that they aren’t God anyway, they can also grow and change, can make mistakes and it’s not their fault.
Don’t blame people for disappointing you. Blame yourself for expecting too much.
This is what the problem with the sensitive people, they love and think deeply about life. Even the simple things mean the most to them, they notice and can feel things are changing, but they don’t say a word because that’s their nature. They just don’t express themselves because they don’t want to complaint and seem to be a sensitive or over emotional person because that would be perceived as a weak person which they knows they aren’t. And because of that , they suffer more.. expect more..they expect their loved ones to understand them and then ends up feeling unwanted which leads to frustration.
Expectations feeds frustration, it is an unhealthy attachment to people, things, we wish to control but can’t.
Everyone is going and growing through life. They also have their own journey. No matter how hard we try we cannot control anyone or expect them to behave in a certain manner. The only thing we can do is to expect less and save ourselves from the hurt we are creating, because we just cannot blame them to not to meet our expectations.
If we really love ourselves and want to feel free, we just need to trade our expectations for apperception. Instead of expecting so much from the ones we love, just appreciate them as they are, there’s nothing else we can do other than this.
When we release expectations, we are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what we think they should be.
Sometimes..it becomes very important for us to come out of our dream world and face the reality because its always better to feel surprised than to feel disappointed.
Be happy, enjoy life, expect less, appreciate more.. ♡