Yesterday.. my classmate was sitting alone at the last bench.
After all classes were over.. i noticed she was still there..
I sensed there was something wrong with her so I went to her and asked..
“Hey everything ok?”
She said nothing.
I asked again..
“What happened? Is there anything wrong?”
Then I asked, “Can I help you..?”
“There is nothing wrong and nothing you can help me about ” she shouted.. sobbed.
I offered her water.
She drank. After a while.. when she felt okay, she said..
“It’s him..We fought yesterday on something and..”
“And he hit me.”
“Yes, he got angry, shouted bad words, slaped me and pushed me away..
Everyone was watching us.. I was embarrassed.”
“How can you allow such behaviour.. & then what you did??” I said.
“Nothing! He is my boyfriend” she said.
“So he can do anything..
He was just angry..
I made him angry..It was actually all my fault.”
Who gave him the right to behave with you like that??”
“He loves me that’s why he hit me..”
“What?? Are you out of your mind? Who told you so?”
“You know nothing about love”
“I think you don’t know what love is let me explain its..”
“Shut up! You just go away and stay out of my matter..
It’s my life..my relationship and my personal decisions, so back off okay!”
She said aggressively and left.
I felt bad for her.. not bad but you know.. like..sad.
I was thinking how could someone be okay with treated like trash..
How someone can allow such behaviour and name it love?
Is it love..? Really..?
I didn’t knew that love was about speaking bad words, beating, or making the other person feel bad.
I wanted to help her but she didn’t allowed me.
She was so comfortable in feeling like that, that she thought it was completely okay to feel like that..
She allowed it and as they say what you allows, continues to grow.
She didn’t even thought that she needed help, she needed someone who could help her to get out of that abusive relationship.. so i thought.. maybe I know nothing about love but i do know whatever she was experiencing wasn’t it.
She has forgotten the feeling of love and how it’s supposed to feel.. I wanted to help her.. but I can’t even force her to do anything.
I don’t know what she will do or decide but I hope she puts all of her courage and make the right decision.. the decision that would help her to get out of such toxic relationship.
It’s not a courageous act to be in a toxic or abusive relationship.. but lack of courage to walk out of it.
Sometimes people can’t decide if they are in one or not.. so here are some signs that will help you to identify :
• Yelling , hurting (both physically and mentally).
• Punishing for sharing your views.
• Trying to control you & your life.
• Insulting you.
• Isolating you from the whole world.
• Uses wrong, harsh words.
• Tries to change you, hold you back.
• Always angry and arrogant.
The people in a relationship like that can’t leave the other person because they are afraid they won’t find someone else like them again..
Seriously? Trying to find someone like that again..
They should know not everyone is same and it is a good thing.
They like the comfort and are afraid of change.
They lack the courage and confidence.
They have lost themselves in the process of making the things work.
All the need is someone who can empower them and remind them who they are and allow people to help them.
The first thing they need to do is to leave that person who is making their life miserable.
I don’t know why people don’t understand life is too short to spend with someone like that.. to be unhappy and depressed.
You should be with someone who feels happy to have you in their life and treats you like you’re a blessing to them and if you can’t find someone like that then be alone.
You did everything, tried everything, stayed loyal, stucked by them..but they can’t even respect you then what’s the point.. instead work on yourself ..heal, grow and enjoy your own company and stop thinking that you will fix someone like that because if they don’t see any issues in their actions and don’t intend to then don’t be stupid to waste your time & save yourself before it’s too late.
Never let anyone destroy you.
It’s not love,
Keep smiling 😋
Stay blessed 🌼